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"Dead Mom Disease, by Lucy Layne, is a memoir of a teenager who talks about a rather uncomfortable topic for most people – Death, especially the death of a mother. In this book, she narrates her experience witnessing her mother die, of living without a mother after her death, of how grief makes people uncomfortable so they offer you advice to be happy when you don’t want to be happy, and the never-ending process of grieving. She tells us about the gut-wrenching moment of losing a loved one and of life, all through her own thought-provoking words. It also talks about the all-encompassing maternal love and how the balance of life can never be restored after the death of a mother.
Lucy Layne writes honestly and unapologetically about a topic that makes people leave the table when it is brought up. The death of a loved one is a dark topic and people are afraid of the dark. It takes courage to introspect on one’s dark feelings and then write about them with openness and humility.
The author was very realistic in narrating a painful death experience. She moves through the book while capturing the lasting process of grief very aptly. She takes you through the various emotions of anger, denial, depression, deep sadness, and finally acceptance and how these emotions are a necessary part of experiencing the death of a loved one. The book provides a glimpse into a terrifying reality but also reassures you that even after such an abysmal moment in life, you will still survive.
Another critical aspect of the book is how important it is to let the bereaved grieve. Grief is unavoidable in such a circumstance and to take that moment of sadness away from the bereaved can be very damaging on both a mental and physical level. While society fixates on being happy, a person with a great loss must go through grief slowly to provide a channel for emotions to flow out. This is important to get back into the routine of life.
Lucy Layne’s narration feels personal, like you are not alone in this grief. This book makes you cry and laugh as well. It’s not a depressing tale, but rather an uplifting and insightful one. It gives you honest details of what the death of a loved one feels like and brings you solace through shared human experiences of tragedy, joy, tenderness, fear, and love."
- Literary Titan
"Loved this very real journey of loss and growth."
"A raw, in-your-face retelling of the emotional roller coaster ride that losing a close member of your family really is. Stories of shock, anger and bottomless grief mingle with chapters of fond memories and even some comic relief. Dead Mom Disease is never "over" - it never stops, ends, and there is no cure. But this book will definitely serve fellow-victims of the disease well - as a source of commiseration, inspiration and even release. For readers who have never lost a member of their immediate family - this provides a glimpse into that terrifying abyss, while at the same time providing the poignant reassurance that yes, we are strong enough to physically and mentally survive something even as terrible as that. Stirring on so many levels - highly recommend!"
"It was a down to earth, realistic view of how she personally dealt with her grief of losing her mother. It flowed great! I laughed, I cried and I kept waiting for the movie fairy tale ending but had to keep telling myself that this was real life. This book made it ok to say “I’m not fine” and be ok with that."
"What a good read. An emotional roller coaster. I couldn’t put the book down. The author is raw and doesn’t sugar coat. She says what everyone is thinking but never really says out loud. The book has a great flow and is written really well. I look forward to reading what the author writes next. Her writing style makes her super relatable which is partly why I loved the book so much."
"Loss and grief are a universal part of the human experience. Even if you have never lost your mother, you are able to connect deeply to this book. Lucy Layne seamlessly takes you on her journey of the before and after of her mothers death while interweaving the timelines in an interesting and impactful way. Her honest, brave and powerful words make you feel as though you know her personally. And although the subject of death is a difficult one, she offers a perfect mix of metaphor and reality to paint a beautiful picture. This book made me laugh, cry and remember the important things in life. Everyone should read this!"
"Prefacing this review of Dead Mom Disease, I should note that I don’t usually read memoirs, biographies, or poetry. Just a matter of reading preferences and taste.
This book was a wonderful surprise in that I thoroughly enjoyed the story. Although a very difficult topic to discuss, the author manages to convey the emotions involved with life challenging experiences for both herself and her mother. It is rare to find a story about life that excels in capturing true human experiences and feelings so difficult to convey to others. Each chapter reveals both the author’s inner self in the face of adversity and nature of her mother’s in the same. This is accomplished through both prose and poetry.
If you are willing to take a chance on a story with a window to essence of human tenderness, warmth, fear, tragedy and joy, I highly recommend Dead Mom Disease by Lucy Layne."